Am I more like Amy or Penny?

Ben and I are devoted fans of the American sitcom, Big Bang Theory. There are two female characters in the show  – Penny and Amy – and I have been wondering who I’m most like. Penny is the fun, cool, beautiful, man-magnet, actress-wannabe who works in a cafe. Amy is the nerdy, insecure, intelligent, neurobiologist who never had any friends or boyfriends (that is until her character made friends with the other characters in the show). Writing the traits of both women now has hammered it in to me that I’m much more like Amy. But this wasn’t obvious to me before because we don’t always view ourselves as other people do and I spend much of the time mocking and laughing at Amy. Who would want to resemble her? The gorgeous fun-loving Penny that everyone adores. That was me, right? No. The penny dropped (good pun!) when I saw that Amy had a crocheted granny blanket on the couch in her apartment in the exact same spot as mine.

I never had any boyfriends in high school. Not one. My parents must have found this odd because I can remember them asking me one day whether I liked boys. This was somewhat humiliating because the implication was that I liked girls and while there’s nothing wrong with girls liking girls, I was not one of those girls. I felt inadequate and insecure, just like Amy. She also lacks the tact and social convention insights that Penny grasps so well. Here again, a similarity I share with Amy.

One should be proud to have traits in common with Amy Farrah Fowler. She is very intelligent and does have a Ph.D in neurobiology. Amazingly, this is mirrored in real life with the actor who plays her, Mayim Bialik, also possessing a Ph.D in neurobiology. That I don’t have.


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5 responses to “Am I more like Amy or Penny?”

  1. s.m. Avatar
    s.m.

    I had the awesome privilege of knowing Rachel at school. She was smart, capable, internally strong, focused, the only person I could have a deep felt belly laugh with, considerate, caring, beautiful long legs a model would die for and the list goes on. No boyfriends was not a failure Rach. No one could match you. You had a wisdom, maturity and air of sophistication well above that of your peers. Particularly the male ones. It was not a character fault which so many of us think it is. Being insecure and unsure I think goes with the territory of being a teenager. I know I felt the same. Some don’t get through this, but you did. Being smart is a wonderful thing as you can do so much, but like everything it is also a curse as you tackle endless possibilities and the thirst for unquenchable knowledge and understanding. You’re right Rach. We don’t often view ourselves as other people do and I am sorry to hear you felt this way. But you were as beautiful and capable then as you are now and I know that you were much loved by many. Especially me, and that hasn’t changed in all these years.

    P.S. What’s wrong with a crocheted blanket? Keeps you warm, and there is no way I could make one.

    1. Rachel Avatar
      Rachel

      You are my bestest friend ever! Love you, S.M.

  2. Max Avatar
    Max

    Well Rachel you are really baring your soul in this post. To help you feel more relaxed about your revelations, I can say that almost everyone has insecurities of some kind, sometimes very well hidden. Why don’t you study the character of Penny more closely to see if you can detect what her hidden insecurities might be. XXX

  3. Andrea Cole Avatar
    Andrea Cole

    Hey Rach

    Unlike you, I always shy away from writing on the blog. Silly really. Especially as I loved what Sarah wrote and of course totally agree. The way I remember you was as someone who had enough confidence to not cow to social pressure and speak your mind. That takes guts as a teenager and I sooo respected you for that – to the point I was almost envious. As for funny and beautiful…well that goes without saying. You’re hilariously funny to me and any other person with a wicked, silly enough humour. Not to mention a totally kick-ass body -even after two babes. Soooo, while I don’t watch the show, maybe you are both Amy and Penny.

    Anyway darl, while I’m sure you didn’t mean the blog to trigger a deluge of compliments, I hope you get many more. Sarah’s beautiful response was a reminder we should tell all of those we love how wonderful they are. As she said, not everybody always can see that and don’t always make it through. Poor Rene couldn’t see it. Just wish we told her more often.

    Love you beautiful woman xo

  4. Rachel Avatar
    Rachel

    Stop it! Everyone. I don’t want anymore compliments.

    I love you too, Andrea. If anyone knows how to speak their mind, it’s you. You were always the non-conforming, unique individual. I’m so lucky to have you as my friend.

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